The number one cause of black poverty in the United States may surprise you. It’s not those mean ol’ Republicans or the Tea Party. It’s not a minimum wage job. It’s not necessarily the lack of a high-school diploma. It’s out-of-wedlock births born to black females. When a mother has a baby out-of-wedlock, odds are great, she’s raising the baby alone with no financial help from the baby’s father.
It’s difficult enough for two-parent households to raise children. A single parent raising one, two, or more children on a measly income and a marginal education will face even greater money struggles than a two-parent family with two incomes. Odds are, she and her children, will be stuck in a financial hole for many, many years as a result of an unplanned, out-of-wedlock birth. This is poverty folks, and this is how it starts.
Prevention is so important.
Condoms are a low-tech, time proven method to prevent unplanned births. Most males, especially black males, loathe using condoms and so do some females. They think using condoms interrupts the natural flow of intimacy. But it’s not just about them. Black males don’t have to carry the baby, and too many of them don’t stick around to support the baby. Let’s just tell it like it is.
Therefore, females not only carry the baby, but they also have to care for the baby--alone. So, it’s in her best interest to be adamant about condom use before she has sex. No condom, no nookie should be her game plan. Let that be her mantra.
Females shouldn’t be too worried about the effect a “no condom, no nookie” practice will have on their guys. Trust me, if females insisted that a guy put on a shirt and tie before intimacy, the average guy would quickly adapt and put on a shirt and tie! If females insisted on condom use, most guys would get with the program. But females have to insist.
Condoms will reduce HIV/AIDS, unplanned pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, and reduce poverty rates in our communities. Since females have to carry the baby and care for the baby, shouldn’t they have more say over when they have babies?
A segment of Americans are angry and disgruntled about a lot of issues, and they’re fed up with the politically correct talk of most politicians. No doubt, Donald Trump has tapped into that. Even so, I would not vote for this man, because he would be an absolute disaster for the country. It's one thing to talk like a drunken bigot in a bar, but you don't want your president behaving like that.
Trump's campaign is a good indication of what kind of president this man would be. He is an arrogant, thin-skinned know it all. He reminds you of that spoiled brat whose parents indulged him. What’s more, he has insulted nearly every group you can think of. Every week it’s another insult. Most recently, he mocked a man with a disability. He has even insulted nearly every one of his Republican rivals. Every week or every day, he insults someone new.
The clues are obvious about this man's character, or lack thereof. As Americans, we should never, ever allow the rantings of a demagogue to lead us. America’s great presidents have demonstrated intelligence, character, wisdom, compassion, and sound judgment. I don’t see those qualities in Trump.
If Trump was president, in his mind, he would wave a wand, and POOF, ISIS would be wiped out on his first day in office. He would build a border fence and seal off America. He would tell China what to kiss. He would bomb Iran, and Putin would shake in his shoes. If Trump was president, it would be like Fantasyland. Incredibly, some Americans have bought into the con game.
African Americans, typically, don’t have a problem expressing themselves or “going off” on someone they disagree with. Yeah. And even if someone says something that’s true, if we disagree with it, we have ways of expressing our displeasure. We will call the person racist, Tom, and other insults. All of this suggests, we can dish it out, but we can’t handle the truth. Call it political correctness in black.
Fact is, no individual is perfect. You could say the same thing about groups. We’re all flawed. And yet, some of us, individuals as well as groups, act as if everything we say or everything we do is perfect.
For those who think this way, any comment that isn’t flattering is seen as a put down, or an insult. It’s as if any statement or comment that doesn’t pamper us or tell us over and over again what victims we are is interpreted as rejection, hate, or a put down.
When Spike Lee was producing the movie about Chicago’s black-on-black violence, “Chiraq,” he was immediately attacked on social media and elsewhere—by some Blacks. They so resented Spike’s critique, they likened him to a white racist, a Tom. Spike Lee, likened to a white racist? Spike Lee a Tom? All because he chose to shine a light on a serious problem the black community treats like incest in a family—black-on-black violence?
When those kinds of insults are hurled, it brings to mind the saying,
“TRUTH IS HATE TO THOSE WHO HATE THE TRUTH.”
In the book, “Black Lies, White Lies,” Journalist Tony Brown wrote,
“There is little room in the black community for freedom of expression, or for many of the other freedoms that Blacks demand from Whites. The black community is run by an oligarchy of brown shirt plantation overseers who could improve their Nazi impersonations only if they spoke German.”
Enter the Black Life Matters Movement. This is a group eerily close to Brown’s description. The group claims black lives matter. Yet it routinely ignores, arguably, the greatest threat to black lives—black-on-black violence. Whenever the hypocrisy of the Black Lives Matter movement is exposed, the “movement” can become quite sensitive.
But their kind of hypocrisy deserves to be exposed. When a group chooses the lofty name “Black Lives Matter,” it is putting a bullseye on it’s back, and it is inviting scrutiny. A group cannot call itself “Black Lives Matter” and be selective about which black lives matter and when. For example, the killing of 9-year-old Tyshawn Lee by a gang thug should have mattered as much as the killing of LaQuan McDonald. But it did not.
Maybe BLM should re-brand itself to “Black Lives Matter, but only when the life is taken by a white cop.” Min. Farrakhan once said, “We are easily led in the wrong direction, but you would have great difficulty leading us in the right direction.” He was so right.
What makes the United States a great country is freedom of thought and freedom of speech. This is something you don’t see in many Middle Eastern or other countries. You also don’t see it much in the black community. We should welcome freedom of thought and different ideas more.
A growing number of Blacks are beginning to believe that if we focus more on self-help initiatives and stray from the victim’s narrative, we would begin to see more progress. On the other hand, other Blacks feel insulted when self-help initiatives are brought up. This group is content to marinate in victim sauce.