@mccordalex @SonjatMorgan - best advice on Kelly is this: stay with Sonja's initial instincts from "Scary Island" - Kelly has defined her version of reality within extremely specific and well-entrenched parameters - if you cannot play her reality by her rules, you are better off staying on your side of the looking glass - Alex, stop trying to make sense of or intellectualize your conversations with Kelly because she cannot function on that level - expecting her to do so is too harsh for her - she simply cannot do it. Allow that you are not dealing with a normal grown woman. Treat her more gently and step around her and keep moving. Sonja, you must understand that Kelly's uncalled-for remarks about your house or your lifestyle were the remarks of a small child but they were coming out of a grown woman's mouth. At the reunion, you were attempting to make the grown woman understand how what she did was wrong. But... that grown woman does not exist. Again, step around the child as she throws her word tantrums and keep moving on with the goodness in your own life. Alex and Sonja, you cannot change someone else's perception of reality. You can only choose to not let it affect your own reality.